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Saturday, March 17, 2007

Guess who's crocheting?

My mom!



But she didn't want me to know until she'd mastered it. See, I came home this week because we had a scare with my dad -- who is doing well now, thank heavens. So when mom and I got home from the hospital, she told me, "I have a secret." She could no longer resist the lure of yarn and had purchased a "How to Crochet a Hip Hat" kit at her local Michael's.

This is a big deal because mom has rheumatoid arthritis and didn't want to give crochet a try, but she's using the special cushioned hook covers and doing well. The kit basically sucked -- a huge plastic hook and only enough scratchy acrylic yarn to make a cap for a sprite or a gnome or a lawn jockey. Certainly not enough to cover a human head. And the instructions appear to have been translated from another language. But she finished it and moved onto a double crochet scarf out of the Rowan cotton I picked up at Brooklyn General with the preposterous plan to knit a thong for my friend's bridal shower. (To the horror of Jess.)

But I thought better of that plan and instead intend to make a few Mason-Dixon dishcloths to go along with some kitchen supplies for the bride-to-be.



Maybe I'm just an idiot, but I've never understood bridal shower etiquette. Should you buy off the registry because they're a young couple and need stuff? Or do you only buy off the registry for the wedding? Or should you forget the registry and get something personal? These things always stymie me.

20 Comments:

Blogger schrodinger said...

Glad to hear your Dad is doing better know. Great to hear your Mum is picking up the crochet.

As for bridal showers, the first I'd ever been to was my own (don't do that kind of thing in the UK), and I got a mixture of gifts, my faves for sure were the personal, off-list kind, stuff to pamper me, or make me smile.

10:29 AM  
Blogger gleek said...

hooray for your mom! she must be excited to be crating with her daughter.

i usually buy stuff off the registry especially if it's going to be a small wedding. that way, between the shower and the wedding, they get everything that they need. but personal things are fun too especially if it's a big wedding and the bridge/groom have a lot of relatives willing to buy them the big stuff.

10:40 AM  
Blogger The_Add_Knitter said...

Yes for the dish cloths, etc., and I thought the bikini was a cute idea, but then again I tend to be inappropriate....

My understanding is that for the shower you give 'girly/personal' things and that you get stuff from the registry for the wedding.

Glad your dad is ok. My FIL has terrible RA, so I am glad that your mom's permits her to work with her hands.

10:57 AM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

I'm glad your dad is doing better.

Bridal shower etiquette... Well, I think it depends on how well you know the bride. If it's a close friend, buying something personal is good. If it's a coworker, or more casual friend, I'd go off the registry.

11:48 AM  
Anonymous Sandra said...

i am so so glad to hear your father is doing well. :) yay!

i tend to do personal gifts for bridal showers, stuff off the registry for the actual wedding. but maybe that's just how i do it. not quite sure what the proper etiquette would be. . .hmmm. . .*scratches head*

12:09 PM  
Blogger Elizabeth said...

I think anything goes for either the shower or the wedding. When we got married I really appreciated the personal gifts from people who knew us (and our tastes) really well, but I also was really happy for the registry stuff, especially from the people who would have had no idea what to get us or had way opposite tastes as us. I do remember getting a lot of booze at my shower... I don't know what that means.

My standard wedding gift is deluxe Scrabble. Always a hit.

4:05 PM  
Blogger Theresa said...

If you know the bride well, go with something personal or pampering. But they really do want the stuff off their registry - that's why they registered. So it's always nice to get something off the registry and throw some small personal things into the mix.

6:32 PM  
Blogger Julsey said...

Glad to hear your dad's doing better and yay for your mom crocheting!!

My take on bridal showers is to buy the shower gift from the registry and give a cash gift for the wedding. The groom isn't gonna care if she gets the china. He will care if he has some $ to pay the whole thing off...

Also, saw your "Tiffany Box blue" bathroom on Apartment Therapy today...I recognized it before i saw your name! So cute :)

8:28 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

"Jersey" (my homeland) gift giving etiquette is something off the registry for the shower, and if you want you can add personal items to it, then cash/check for the wedding. That's all about Jersey right there.

I like your dishcloths and yay for your mom! Hope your dad is feeling better!

1:01 PM  
Anonymous frecklegirl jess said...

So glad to hear your dad is doing well- whew!

Yay for crafy moms!

So I got married not that long ago and wasn't that thrilled with the idea of the registry in general so I liked the more personal/ inventive gifts. (seems so crazy to me- go buy me this stuff, people!)

You do need to do a registry though because people want to get you something you picked out. That's my (long) two cents. :) Still think the thong would have been cool- haha

10:14 PM  
Blogger Miss Scarlett said...

Thank goodness your Father is better. That is wonderful that your Mom has discovered crochet - even more wonderful that she can do it despite RA. Imagine the fun you are going to have together shopping for non-scratchy, non-acrylic yarn!

As for wedding gifts: If you know them well personal gifts at each.
Generally it is a personal gift for the shower and a registry gift for the wedding. Too bad - I think the thong is kind of a cool gift.

11:00 PM  
Blogger jenna said...

That's so funny that your mom kept her crafty secret from you! Glad dad is better. And really glad you didn't knit the thong. :)

I usually buy off the registry for the shower and do the cash thing for the wedding (mostly because I don't want to lug around a smoothie-maker while I'm wearing heels). Unless the bride is very very near and dear and then she's getting something personal for the shower, like it or not!

10:47 AM  
Anonymous craptina said...

The last bridal shower I went to, Maria and I got a "Ball and Chain" and some fluffy handcuffs. This was funny, but the other girls brought corsets and other sexy things for the wedding night. We felt kinda dumb when all teh gifts were opened. I guess it depends on how well you know the bride and her sense of humor. A knit thong would be funny, but maybe get her something else too.

I wish my mom surprised me with crafts! that is so cool! I'm glad she's able to work through it and your dad is feeling better.

12:03 PM  
Blogger MeBeth said...

So glad your dad is doing ok!! I agree with many of the commenters above, the shower is a good chance to go "off-registry" if you have something fun in mind, but you can totally buy from the registry also.

12:57 PM  
Blogger amanda said...

Good for your mom. My mom has RA too, and although she's tried knitting, she hasn't kept up with it. But, this is not because it hurts her hands (I don't think) - more because I don't think she really loves knitting!

1:30 PM  
Blogger femiknitter said...

I usually try to do more personal things for bridal showers if I know the person well enough. If not, I rely on the registry. It's not that the more distant friends don't deserve crafty gifts, but I'm never sure if they will actually appreciate them.

Yeah for your mom's newfound crochet skills! My aunt has RA, and she has thought about picking up crochet recently. I'll have to tell her of your mom's success.

5:21 PM  
Blogger KnitPastis said...

Great washcloth! I think I am the last person to knit a washcloth.LOL I do have it on my list though:)

Thank God your dad its doing better and YAY, your mom is crocheting!

7:04 PM  
Anonymous gina L said...

My favorite wedding gifts were not on the registry, items such as an estate silver bowl and a beautiful handmade quilt. Your handmade items certainly
will be appreciated. You will have to get your mom into a good yarn store so she can catch the natural fiber bug.

1:20 PM  
Blogger Wendy said...

Gift-giving is a mighty web of intrigue to me. The registry is yet another growing trend that I'm not to keen about. I guess when it comes to your china pattern, you'd have to let people know. But who uses china anymore? Ugh.

I do try to buy off the registry, anyway, however. Then, if I know the couple, I'll try to put something in there that is personal, too.

So happy to hear your dad is better. It is awful to have a sick parent.

12:08 AM  
Blogger Dorothy said...

Glad your Dad is alright and that your Mom is able to find a simple pursuit she can enjoy.

I get something small from the registry and give something personal if I know her and just go for the registry if I don't.

2:54 PM  

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